9 tips and tricks for great lesbian sex!

Are you attracted to women and want to know how lesbian sex actually works? Or are you just curious about what sex with another women is like? Is lesbian sex unknown territory for you and are you looking for some tips and tricks? Then you’ve come to the right place!

1. Endless possibilities

Just as with other couples, there’s no one way lesbians have sex. There are so many things that two women can do together. Many people think penetration (e.g. a penis in a vagina) is necessary for sex. But sex can mean something different for every person. So sex between two women doesn’t necessarily have to include penetration. There’s no instruction manual for lesbian sex. This leads to many different options in bed, including oral sex, scissoring, fingering, strap-on dildos, and much more. The possibilities are endless! Which is a good thing, because sex is all about discovering new things together with your partner!

“Lesbian sex has endless possibilities for you to discover together with your partner.”

2. Start by masturbating

Masturbating is the best way to familiarise yourself with your own body. It lets you discover what you like, what you don’t like, and what your body needs to get excited or experience sexual pleasure. The added advantage of lesbian sex is that your partner is also a woman; that means you both have a good idea of exactly how to hit the right spots. But keep in mind that everyone has preferences. Just because you like something doesn’t automatically mean that your partner will enjoy it too. For example, while some women enjoy nipple stimulation, others prefer to give it a miss. Always make sure to ask your partner what they like and don’t like beforehand.

Also read: The 6 best masturbation techniques for women

3. The importance of foreplay

For most women, foreplay is very important. Unlike men, women need a lot more time to get properly aroused. And when sex is rushed, it can lead to sexual discomfort, like a dry vagina or painful intercourse. Women are well aware of this and typically pay extensive attention to foreplay. Take time to build things up slowly. The longer the foreplay, the better the sex!

4. It’s all about communication

Who says talking during sex isn’t sexy?! Sure, it’s no time to discuss household chores or shopping lists, but communicating during the deed is extremely important. If you don’t point out what you like, you partner won’t know how to please you best. Discuss who will be on top, who will give, who will receive, what the other wants to receive, how often they want to receive it, and so on. Asking questions will lead to an enjoyable experience for both parties, because you’ll be able to fulfil each other’s wishes. Make sure to clearly communicate what you like, but don’t forget to listen to your partner’s desires as well.

Did you know… Lesbian couples typically communicate better than heterosexual couples?

5. Don’t forget to communicate with yourself

Not only is it good to know what your partner likes; it’s important to know what you want too! Reflect carefully on your desires and expectations, because a pleasant sexual experience starts with you. If you know who you are and what you want, you’ll be able to explain it better to others too.

Also read: How to use a strap-on or strap-on dildo

6. Women know where to find the clitoris

A woman knows her body pretty well. This means she also knows how other women’s bodies work.  Finding the clitoris? That’s not a problem for you, nor is it for your partner. So, you can please each other without having to be led to the right spot first. You also know other spots that can be stimulated simultaneously in order to orgasm.

“Women know their own bodies pretty well, and so can also understand another woman’s!”

7. Emotional connection

Women are typically more open to forming an emotional connection with others. This is useful when it comes to sex because this connection will put you at ease faster. Even if the relationship is superficial (think: “friends with benefits”), women are still able to form an emotional connection to a certain extent, which makes for great sex.

8. It’s not about who finishes first

Women aren’t too bothered about who finishes first. Many women take longer to climax than men. So it’s a completely different ball game when two women have sex together. You just don’t know who will finish first. Women understand there’s no need to be embarrassed if it takes a while to orgasm. And it’s no big deal if you don’t orgasm at all. Sex isn’t about a climax; it’s about the intimate experience with your partner that gives you sexual or emotional satisfaction.

Did you know… there are various sex toys that you can use? Things like a clitoris vibrator or a strap-on.

Also read: The best sex toys for lesbian couples

9. What about scissoring?

Scissoring is rubbing your vaginas against each other, with legs intertwined, like two scissors. It’s a fairly complicated sex position, but if you do it right, it can lead to an orgasm. Whether or not scissoring is typically lesbian depends on the couple. Some couples love it; others hate it. Scissoring is just one of the many sex positions suitable for lesbian couples. It’s up to you to discover your hottest sex positions!

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