How to give the perfect yoni massage!

Do you want to spoil your partner in the best possible way? Delve into the world of yoni massages. Never heard of it? This is a relaxing and erotic massage of the vagina. In this article, we’ll explain how to give your girlfriend the best yoni massage ever!

What is a yoni massage?

Yoni is a Sanskrit word that loosely translates to “vagina” but is loaded with spiritual connotation.  A yoni massage isn’t just fiddling around with the vagina and is much more that just fingering. There’s a true thought process behind it. This massage can eradicate your partner’s concerns, insecurities and fears, leaving her feeling like the powerful woman she is. The goal isn’t to make her cum; it’s about enjoying the experience of the massage.

“This massage can eradicate your partner’s concerns, insecurities and fears, leaving her feeling like the powerful woman she is.”

Don’t forget that the aim is to give her an extremely pleasurable and arousing experience. This massage is all about her. At no point should there be any penetration. So don’t expect her to give you anything in return. You’re giving and she’s receiving. In other words, this is her chance to completely let go. And let’s be honest, you’ll also enjoy watching her reactions.

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How to give the perfect yoni massage

Make sure your nails are trimmed and clean and have no hard edges. It’s also important to make it clear beforehand that this is a yoni massage and not foreplay. Sex and orgasms aren’t the end goal!

1. Create a comfortable setting

It’s important to create a relaxed mood. Dim the lights, light some candles and incense, and make the massage area comfortable with pillows and blankets. Put on some relaxing background music. Don’t forget to keep the lube ready. Warning: don’t use ordinary massage oil for her vagina. This isn’t suitable and may cause irritation. However, there are certain massage gels that are also suitable lubricants.

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  Coolmann - Power Glide - 120 ml
  Coolmann
  £15.40
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  Massage- & Glide Gel 2 in 1 - Raspberry
  Shiatsu
  £17.12

2. Slowly work your way towards her yoni

Women need time to get excited and ‘open’ themselves up to you. Get her into a relaxing mood by first massaging the rest of her body. Massage everything except her vagina. Start with her legs and arms and work your way to her torso. Don’t forget her breasts and groin area. These are highly erogenous zones linked to the clitoris.

3. Carefully explore her vagina

Sit between her legs so that you have a good view of her yoni and can easily reach it during the massage. Give her compliments to put her at ease. Gently place the palm of your hand on her pubic mound. Place your other hand on her heart. Gently stroke her with your fingertips, starting from the top, moving over her pubic mound to her labia. This will stimulate the nerve endings in and around her vagina.

4. Use lubricant

Warm the lubricant in your hands. Applying the gel directly from the bottle onto her vagina will likely feel unpleasant and you run the risk of undoing the relaxed mood you’ve just created. So make sure the lubricant is sufficiently warm. Apply enough lubricant to the whole vagina. Don’t forget to apply some to her inner and outer labia, too.

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  EasyGlide Warming Lubricant - 150 ml
  EasyGlide
  £12.84 £8.55
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  Pjur Original 100 ml
  Pjur
  £19.69

5. Start at the labia

Start at the outer labia. Using your fingers, gently stroke the labia up and down. For example: use your index and middle finger to go down and your thumb to go back up. Then slip your fingers in between her outer labia and massage her inner labia. You can use the same stroking movements here. Don’t forget about her perineum. This is the space between the opening of her vagina and her anus. Men also have this space and it’s very sensitive.

6. Now massage her most sensitive area

Now you’re going to massage the most sensitive spot of her vagina: her clitoris. Be gentle: this is a highly sensitive area. The clitoris contains no fewer than 8,000 nerve endings. In comparison, the glans of the penis contains ‘only’ 4,000 nerve endings. Gently touch her clitoris without exerting too much pressure. Using your fingers, move in circular motions or stroke up and down or back and forth. Make sure not to press any harder or move any faster. Maintain the same, low-speed pace throughout the yoni massage.

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7. Distribute the sexual energy

In the spiritual world, it’s believed that you can distribute the sexual energy released during a yoni across the body. Whether you believe this or not, it’s a fun thought. To do this, sweep the palm over your hand upward toward her heart every once in a while. Besides distributing the ‘energy’ across her body, it prevents you from focusing on her yoni too much. And in addition to caressing her breasts once in a while, you can also use the other hand on her groin area.

8. Enter her yoni

Don’t just place you finger inside. Let her know that you want to enter her and place your finger at the opening of her vagina. Wait for her consent and then gently push your finger in. Slowly spin you finger in circular motions and explore the inside of her vagina. If necessary, insert a second finger and let your fingers rest there for a while. Continue to massage her clitoris with your thumb.

9. Massage her G-spot

With your fingernails facing down, curl your fingers into the shape of a banana or the “come hither” gesture. Apply some pressure and move your fingers in a circular motion against the anterior and upper wall of her vagina. When you reach a swollen area about 5 centimetres inside her vagina, you’ve probably hit the G-spot. Play close attention to her reaction when rubbing this area. While some women enjoy the feeling, it may be too sensitive for others. Continue to gently massage her clitoris.

10. The end of your yoni massage

After a while, you can bring the vaginal massage to a close. Warning: an orgasm isn’t a must. When you’re both ready, there’s nothing wrong with bringing the massage to an end without climaxing. An orgasm isn’t the objective of this massage. Don’t remove your hand from her yoni and body straight away. Instead, slowly work towards a natural end. Using the palm of your hand, caress her public mound a few times before stroking upwards.

End the massage by lying down next to her and pressing your body against hers. This will give her a sense of security. Of course, you’re free to engage in other sexual acts or switch over to penetration once you’re done, but this should be separate from the yoni massage.

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