The best tips for the first time with someone new

The first time you have sex with someone new is always exciting. You don’t know each other that well and haven’t yet explored much of each other’s bodies. You probably have no idea what they like in bed. To make things a little easier, here are 12 tips for the perfect first time with someone new!

12 tips for a perfect first time

1. Wear something you feel good in

And we mean both clothing and underwear. The better you feel in what you’re wearing, the sexier you’ll feel. And that’s what your partner will sense, too,  making you even hotter ; )

2. Be prepared

Always bring an extra set of underwear and toiletries such as deodorant, a small tube of toothpaste, and a (disposable) toothbrush on your date. After all, you never know how or where the evening will end. If you stay over, you’ll be well prepared!

3. Fresh breath

Mouthwash, some mints, or an extra pack of chewing gum – whatever it takes to keep your breath smelling fresh.

4. Safety first

When you go on a new date, make sure to have a packet of condoms in tow. You never know in advance how the night will go, but should you end up in bed together, at least you’ll be safe.

Also read: Introducing: vegan condoms

5. Take your time

Start slowly. You have all the time in the world, so take your time for foreplay. This way you’ll know exactly what feels good and also discover any boundaries that you need to respect.

Tip: Don’t hesitate to tell them what you like and what you don’t like. This way you’ll prevent your new bed partner from doing something you’re not comfortable with.

6. Leave the past behind

Don’t talk about your previous relationships (or keep it to the bare minimum) and definitely don’t discuss how the sex was like with them. This is of little use to your new partner. It should be all about the two of you, in the here and now.

7. You can laugh!

The first time you have sex with a new partner can be a bit awkward and it can lead to funny situations. Make sure you have a good laugh about it. Humour will break the tension and chances are it’ll benefit your relationship.

8. Don’t hold back

It’s new so it should be fun and exciting both for you and for your new partner. So leave your own insecurities behind and enjoy each other. The first time is something that will only be experienced once.

9. Don’t let others disturb you

Getting to know each other better is best done undisturbed. So make sure your flat mate or, even worse, your mother won’t pop by.

10. Breathe in, breathe out

Attention, gentlemen! As the first time you have sex with a new lover can be quite exciting, it can happen that your ejaculation comes sooner than you’d like. Therefore, pay attention to your breathing! Breathing calmly will help keep you from cumming too quickly.

Did you know… trained pelvic floor muscles are also helpful in delaying orgasm?

Also read: How to train your PC muscles – pelvic floor exercises for men

11. Keep it simple

The first time is always exciting, so don’t make it unnecessarily difficult by experimenting with all kinds of complicated positions, sex toys, or other extras. If this time goes well, you’ll still have plenty of time to explore all that in the future.

12. Everything’s allowed

It’s especially important NOT to put pressure on the other person or yourself. No orgasm? No problem! An orgasm is not necessary to enjoy this new experience. Don’t fake it either. There’s really no need for it! Just be yourself and that will be enough.

Also read: 20 tips for your first time having sex