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These are the very best tips for surprising and spoiling your lover!

Miriam

25-01-2022 · 583 views · 0 comments

Gifts are not only nice to get, they’re also nice to give! In fact, surprising your partner is one of the best things to do in a relationship. But, maybe you don’t have much inspiration when it comes to choosing a good gift. There are so many ways to surprise your loved one, and in this article, we give you the best tips on how to make your partner happy.

A surprise doesn’t always have to be erotic, right? There are quite a few options on both the sexual and the non-sexual side. In this blog, we’ll give you a few examples so you can think about this topic. Who knows, you might even come up with something for yourself that will surprise your partner! Be fresh with your ideas and keep your relationship steamy…

Dress to impress

Lingerie

Okay, you always look nice. But an upgrade never hurt anyone, right? Can you see yourself walking into the bedroom in a see-through catsuit? Your partner will already be lying on the bed, and his eyes will be following you around… Before you buy anything, you might as well browse through your own wardrobe. You might still have something lying around that you can use in the bedroom. Think of a blouse or shirt (that belongs to your partner), which you can then wear with a sexy bra and/or thong!

sexy lingerie blouse

Striptease & lap dance

If you’ve bought a nice lingerie set, it’ll probably come off again! You can get rid of the beautiful set very quickly, but why not make it a bit more arousing by turning it into a show? Combine your lingerie with some nice heels, suspenders and high stockings. You can even put this on underneath your clothes to start a seductive striptease! If you want to go all out, you can put on a nice old-fashioned R&B song and show off your sexy moves. Sit him down on a chair, take control, and spoil him with a lap dance!

A dinner… with you as dessert

Generally speaking, you are the grand finale anyway, right? Tell your partner that you’re in charge of dinner tonight. It might be a good idea to make sure no one else is home or going to be around. Put on one of your best outfits (watch out for splashes) or go completely naked, and cook up a storm. After all, the way to the heart is through the stomach! Since you’re the dessert, you can go straight to the bedroom after the main course and serve yourself as the icing on the cake. Bon appetit!

TIP: Order some whipped cream, chocolate sauce and ice cream to eat off of each other if necessary 😉

Massage him everywhere

Massage techniques

There are many kinds of massage techniques, so giving a good massage is an art in itself. But don’t worry, there are also many massages that you can just do at home – without any practice! Go beyond ‘just rub his shoulders’ and go for something more active. This is not only nice for him, but also for you.

Massaging with massage candles

It may seem very strange to have warm candle wax flow over your body, but it’s perhaps even nicer than regular massage oil. The advantage of a massage candle is that it’s warm; it feels better than a cold oil or gel. But what about burns? Well, if you use the candles safely, there’s nothing to worry about. The melting point of a massage candle is around 30°C, which is slightly lower than your body temperature.

Please note! Always read the instructions on the packaging of the massage candle!

In addition, massage candles have a wonderful scent and a nourishing effect on the skin! Always make sure that you’re well prepared to use massage candles in the best and most responsible way possible! In any case, remember one thing very well; do not use the candle wax as a lubricant! You could also massage your whole body; a massage candle has an average burning time of 36 hours, so you’ll have plenty of time for an intimate massage.

Massage his perineum

Of course, not all men like the feeling of a finger or a toy entering their anus. But you can also stimulate the prostate from outside through the perineum! The area between the anus and the scrotum is called the perineum, and this is where a lot of nerve endings meet. The prostate is located a few centimetres above the perineum. If you give this spot a good perineal massage, he’ll certainly feel the sensation! Some men can even come from prostate stimulation.

With the We-Vibe Verge, for example, you can easily stimulate the prostate from the outside, but you could also do this with a small vibrator. Want to try it without toys first? Then you can also massage the perineum with some lubricant or massage oil.

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Variety in bed

Making some changes in bed isn’t a bad thing! Think of a new position or a fun sex toy, but you can also pick an exciting role play or extend the foreplay. The latter can make a big difference in the short term. Foreplay can also be combined with a massage, but a blowjob, fingering, and stroking are also part of foreplay. There are so many possibilities in foreplay to spoil your partner.

Waking up earlier?

If you wake up earlier than your partner, you can still surprise your sleeping beauty. Kiss your lover awake and crawl very carefully under the covers and give him or her some fantastic oral pleasure! In all likelihood, your partner has never woken up feeling so good.

Do it (somewhere) different

Sex in the bedroom can eventually get boring, because let’s face it, it can be quite monotonous. Move the sex to the sofa, table, chair, or maybe even the weirdest place in the house! Or experiment with different positions. Making love in public is by far the most exciting thing to do! For example, if you give oral sex to your partner in a place where you could be caught. Very sexy.

Think about a location in advance and bring everything you need for outdoor sex. Or make it a romantic picnic that ‘spontaneously’ turns into something erotic! Other exciting places are also very good… Think of changing rooms, lifts, toilets, or bedding shops. The sky is the limit! Your partner will love it.

Invest in a couple’s toy

Stimulation for both of you…

A toy for solo sex is great fun to use together, but a couple’s toy is much more fun and is made especially for it! There are so many different types that you can enjoy together – simultaneously. A duo vibrator is the most well-known toy for this. You can use it during sex, and it provides stimulation for both of you. It’s easy to insert and it will stay in place during penetration!

Stimulation for her…

Most duo vibrators, such as the Satisfyer Partner, We-Vibe or Lelo Tiani 3, stimulate several intimate parts of the body. The clitoris is stimulated, as well as the vagina and the G-spot. All duo vibrators are quite similar, and nearly all of them can be inserted with one end, and put on the clitoris with the other. Of course, the difference is in the performance, structure and functions. There are also models which are only meant for external use; these generally spread the labia and vibrate around the clitoris.

“The clitoris is stimulated, as well as the vagina and the G-spot.”

Stimulation for him…

Yes, even men can be taken to another dimension with a duo vibrator. The vibrations stimulate the testicles or the perineum, but there are also models that stimulate the entire penis. As the entire shaft is stimulated by vibrations, this gives a surprisingly pleasant feeling.

Sexting!

Perfect for couples

It’s not the first time we’ve mentioned sexting, and it’s probably not the last, as sexting is perfect for couples! And let’s face it, it’s a lot of fun and not difficult at all! Sexting can be done in many different ways, and the trick is to find out which one suits you both best.

sexting

Do something kinky

Excitement is always good

A little excitement in the bedroom is always nice, and perhaps just as nice as casual sex! Build it up slowly with your partner. So when he’s not expecting it, start with something new, something completely unexpected. Make it kinky! Push your boundaries and go further than you’re used to. If your partner is open to this, he’ll undoubtedly love it! The term ‘kinky’ is very broad and differs enormously from person to person, but it does boil down to doing something exciting! Something that requires out-of-the-box thinking and just going for it.

Some tips for being kinky

For example, you could choose to wait for your partner naked, wearing only high stockings, boots, or heels in the bedroom. Make sure your partner has a full view of your whole body and let him wait a while until you switch to action. If necessary, tie your partner to the bed and give a show of touching yourself. Or satisfy yourself (and your partner) while tied up.

Fantasy is key

Of course, you could also get caught pleasuring yourself. We guarantee that your partner will be unable to keep his hands off you when this happens! Combine this with role play or an exciting fantasy you’ve had for years. Or stimulate your fantasy and senses by going to a strip club together or visiting an erotic party.

“Give up all control and let your partner take the reins.”

As you can imagine, there are quite a few ways to be kinky! Let your imagination run wild. If necessary, give up all control and let your partner take over! Go for it alone or together. Your partner will love it, and if you trust each other 100%, you’ll enjoy it too. You’ll both be pleasantly surprised!

Did this article inspire you to surprise your partner? Describe the moment in the comments!

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These are the very best tips for surprising and spoiling your lover!