Why do we have one-night stands?
Almost everyone has experienced an exciting night out with a fling from the pub during their single days. This is the well-known one-night stand, something we’ve all done. But why? And why do we sometimes feel like having one? Let’s dive into this.
The joys, not the burdens
Yes, the answer is quite simple. Are you horny and tired of self-love and sex toys? But are you not necessarily waiting for a new relationship? Then a one-night stand is a wonderful solution to enjoy the pleasure, but not to sign up for nagging by a partner. You go into the evening with the same expectations; a steaming hot night with no strings attached. Having a one-night stand certainly has its advantages. For example, it can help you get over an ex, it can help awaken your inner sex god, it can be a huge boost for your self-confidence and if you’re lucky, it’s also delicious.
“You go into the evening with the same expectations; a steaming hot evening and no strings attached.”
Mating dance
A one-night stand is also quite a funny phenomenon. Fortunately, we now know that sex is not just for procreation, but that it’s also simply amazing. Thank God we’re no longer living in the Middle Ages. But the whole ritual of a one-night stand is pretty hilarious. You can compare a one-night stand with a mating dance. Often, this mating dance starts in a steaming nightclub, a festival or simply in a place where lots of substances such as alcohol are consumed. In these COVID days, however, the flirting begins mostly on apps such as Tinder, Grindr, and Hot or Not. It’s not a setting for The Notebook, but when you surrender to the moment, a warm and sexy body can be quite pleasurable and feel like a substitute for love.
Are one-night stands completely trouble-free?
“Yeah, score!” you might think as you read all the above. Sex without the hassle? That sounds like heaven. However, one-night stands are not completely hassle-free either. Not as long as your expectations are aligned or when expectations are adjusted. The latter is common because during sex, a substance is produced that can cause you to become attached to the person you are having sex with. Yes. Oh dear.
“Sex without the fuss? That sounds like heaven…”
It often happens that the people having sex with each other have the same intentions for a wild night, but that one of them (or more) is left with some kind of feelings. Of course, there are cases where a one-night stand turns into something serious, but this is more common than not. If you want a relationship, it’s better to wait a while before you dive into bed with each other.
Also read: How to have a one-night stand without developing feelings
So: don’t expect anything and just enjoy it! Oh, and use a condom of course. Have you ever had a one-night stand?
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