How to use Ben Wa balls + Kegel exercises

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Looking for a sex toy to enhance your sex life? Ben Wa balls, or vagina balls, are the perfect choice. They’re not only easy to use, they also look good and offer a lot of benefits for your body and sexual pleasure. But what exactly are Ben Wa balls, how do they work, and which ones are the best choice for you? Read all about it in this article.

  1. What are Ben Wa balls?
  2. Using Ben Wa balls
  3. Exercising your pelvic floor muscles with Ben Wa balls
  4. The best Ben Wa balls for you

What are Ben Wa balls?

Ben Wa balls, Geisha balls, Kegel balls, love balls, or vagina balls are all different names for (almost) the same toys. Ben Wa balls are specially designed to be inserted into the vagina. They feel good and help you to train your pelvic floor muscles. A multifunctional toy! By regularly using Ben Wa balls, your sex life will improve on several levels. Ben Wa balls or love balls are available in different designs. There are loose balls, balls with a cord, silicone balls, or magnetic ones. Some of them are hollow and contain smaller balls (counterweights) that move back and forth when you move to create arousal.

Benefits of regular use:

  • More intense orgasms
  • Easier to reach a climax
  • Keeps incontinence at bay
  • More control over your pelvic floor muscles
  • Can help relieve pain during intercourse
  • It’s exciting foreplay
  • Very useful in doing Kegel exercises

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Using Ben Wa balls

Alright, but how exactly do you use Ben Wa balls? Below, we’ll explain it step by step.

Inserting Ben Wa balls

Is this your first time using vagina balls? Make sure you are relaxed before inserting the balls. Always use lubricant when inserting them so that they slide in smoothly. Apply a few drops of lubricant to the balls or to the vagina. Avoid using too much lubricant or the balls will not stay in place. They must be inserted above the pelvic floor, in the same place you would insert a tampon. Don’t worry about inserting them too deeply, that’s not possible. They cannot get lost inside your body and will drop down automatically when you relax your pelvic floor muscles. You can also remove them by squatting down and pushing a little.

Keeping them in

Vagina balls can be worn and used in different ways after insertion. Never wear the balls longer than 30 minutes. Use them daily, or every other day, for about 20 minutes. Ben Wa balls make you tighten your pelvic floor muscles (subconsciously), but if you wear them too long, your muscles can become too tense. Do you want to improve your sex life by training your pelvic floor muscles? Then you need to be able to relax your pelvic floor muscles as well as tighten them. The best way to learn this is by doing exercises. We explain how to do this later in the article.

You can use love balls as foreplay or to train your pelvic floor muscles. You can also wear the balls during sex, as both vaginal and anal penetration is still possible. For vaginal sex, it’s best to wear a single ball. For anal sex, keeping in vagina balls allows your partner to also enjoy the feeling of them. Do you want to use the balls for foreplay? Put them in before you go grocery shopping, for example. No one will know you’re wearing them, which will feel super sexy!

Cleaning Ben Wa balls

Always clean your vagina balls before and after use. You can do this with mild soap and lukewarm water, or with a special toy cleaner. It’s a little more challenging to clean balls that are attached to a cord, but take your time and do it carefully. When sex toys aren’t kept clean, bacteria can multiply and might cause vaginal infections. You certainly don’t want that!

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Exercising your pelvic floor muscles with Ben Wa balls

Love balls are perfect for training your pelvic floor muscles. By simply holding them inside, you’re already training them! It’s easy to train your muscles by wearing the balls while you’re busy doing something else. Just make sure that you wear the balls when you’re walking and moving, because that’s when they work best. Want to take your pelvic floor muscle training a step further? Do the following exercises on a regular basis.

Exercise 1

Insert the Ben Wa balls as previously described. For this exercise, sit on a chair. Keep your legs closed. Try to move the ball gently backwards and forwards. Then ‘squeeze’ the balls, as if you want to hold them up for a moment. Hold this for a few seconds. Then let go and relax for a few seconds. Make sure that you relax for at least as long as you tighten your muscles. So, for example, squeeze for two seconds and then relax for two seconds. Repeat this 10 times and then take a minute break. Then repeat the exercise 10 more times. Then rest for two minutes and do a final set of 10. Repeat this exercise 3 to 4 times a week for best results.

Exercise 2

You can try this exercise while standing or sitting down. Squeeze your muscles around the vagina balls and then use your pelvic floor muscles to lift them up. Hold this for 3 to 10 seconds. Then let the balls slide back down and relax. Relax for at least as long as the strain, preferably a little longer. Repeat for 8 to 12 times. For best results, do this exercise 3-4 times a week. You’ll notice it’ll get easier every time. Gradually build up the time you spend flexing your muscles. Start with 3 seconds and work your way up to 10 seconds. Feel like you’ve mastered it? You can make this exercise more challenging by doing it with heavier vagina balls.

Exercise 3

For this exercise, you need vagina balls with a cord. Insert the balls and sit on the edge of the bed or a chair. Tighten your pelvic floor muscles and try to gently pull the balls out of your vagina. Continue to tighten your muscles for 5 seconds while gently pulling on the cord. Then relax for 5 seconds. Repeat this 10 times and then take a minute break. Repeat 10 more times and then take a 2-minute break. Finish with a final set of 10. This exercise also works best when done 3-4 times a week. All going smoothly? Make the exercise more difficult by increasing the sets to 15 reps. You can also build up the muscle tightening time from 5 to 10 seconds.

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More practice

In addition to the exercises listed above, there are many more exercises and training schedules to choose from. Do you want to make your Kegel workout even easier? Download one of the apps below.

Daily Kegel

Daily Kegel

With this app, you can effortlessly train your pelvic floor muscles. Describe your situation in the app and get a tailor-made training schedule! The exercises can be done without Ben Wa balls, but they’re much more effective with them. The app has nice graphics, keeps track of your progress, and has a virtual cat that gives you instructions. So fun! The app is available for Android and IOS.

Kegel – Pelvic Floor Exercise

Kegel app
The KPFE app is great for timing your workout. Follow a preset schedule or create your own in the app. Your phone will show you a notification when you need to tense up or relax. It’s perfect!

The best Ben Wa balls for you

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  • Recently given birth
  • 50 years or older
  • Pelvic floor complaints

Choose large, light vagina balls. These are the easiest to start with. The advantage of large Ben Wa balls is that it’s easy to feel them, which many people find quite erotic. You can choose to start with a single ball and build up slowly.

Slightly advanced

  • Not recently given birth
  • 35 – 50 years old

Are you slightly advanced with these balls? Then you can choose smaller and heavier balls. Feel like it might be too heavy? Go for loose vagina balls or vagina balls that you can take out of their silicone holder. This way, you can build up slowly with one ball at a time.


  • No children
  • 35 years or younger
  • Does yoga or pilates

Choose smaller, heavier balls when you’re more advanced. The disadvantage of small vagina balls is that you don’t feel them as much and therefore experience less sensual stimulation. Would you like to use Ben Wa balls for foreplay? Then opt for larger, heavy balls.

Suitable for all

Not sure which Ben Wa balls suit you best? The sets below are always a success. Thanks to the loose balls with a holder, you can exchange the weights. This allows you to use many different weight combinations and thus create the perfect weight every time and increase it if desired.

Have you ever used Ben Wa balls to train your pelvic floor muscles and do Kegel exercises? Share your experiences in a comment!

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