The 7 best cunnilingus techniques

Keeping your sex life fun has a lot to do with listening to her desires and needs as well. If you haven’t done it already, satisfying her orally is the easiest way to keep her happy. Well, easy may be a big word – it does require some skills! To make you a real cunnilingus king, we’re sharing the following cunnilingus techniques with you. Learning to go down on her has never been so easy!

Benefits of cunnilingus

Tipping the velvet is a lot more intimate than fingering her, and it also turns her on way more. What’s more, no one suffers from sharp nails, your tongue is a lot softer, and you always have a natural lubricant at hand. If she trusts you between her legs, you can make her go crazy.

Oral sex is an effective way to make her come by directly stimulating the clitoris. Few men can make their partner climax by penetration alone. By going down on her, you also show that her pleasure matters to you. Another advantage: when oral sex becomes a regular part of your intimate moments, she’ll want to have sex more often too!

The 7 best cunnilingus techniques

1. Make sure she’s comfortable

The first thing you do is make sure that your bed partner feels comfortable. If she’s not relaxed, she won’t be able to fully surrender to your attentions. Especially early on in a relationship, a woman can be insecure about whether she smells fresh enough down there or whether you like the way it looks. Tell her that she looks beautiful, that you’d like to go down on her, and that you want to make her feel as good as possible. By taking away her uncertainties, you give her the chance to enjoy herself as much as she wants!

“Especially early on in a relationship, a woman can be insecure about whether she smells fresh enough down there or whether you like the way it looks.”

2. Choose the right position

Your partner will probably know exactly which position is most comfortable for her. If she’s open to suggestions, place a pillow under her lower back to lift her pelvis. This will give you better access, and it minimises neck pain. Keep her knees as far apart as possible so that you have enough space to work with.

3. Teasing

Don’t think you can get an easy way out by going right to her clitoris. Calm down cowboy, build up a little tension first! Avoid the clitoris and vagina for a while and softly start biting her ear, or kiss and caress her neck. Take your time for this, then slowly work your way down.

“The inner and outer labia are very sensitive for many women, as is the opening of the vagina. Don’t forget to show these some love too!”

Reached the vagina? Kiss and/or lick her gently on the inside of her thighs and around the vagina. The inner and outer labia are very sensitive for many women, as is the opening of the vagina. Don’t forget to show these some love too! As soon as you’re near the vagina, the tension will have increased quite a bit for her. She is as hot as she can be, and you’re ready to go to the clitoris!

4. Stimulating the clitoris

When she’s aroused enough, it’s time to head for the clitoris. The most important thing is to take it easy in the beginning, so that you can gradually work towards her orgasm. Definitely don’t start too fast. You may also want to keep in mind that a flat tongue feels very different than the tip of your tongue. A flat tongue covers a larger area, while a pointed tongue feels much more intense and can better be used at a later stage. You can also use your fingers to gently spread the labia a bit to better reach everything. When she is wet enough, you can also use your fingers to give her some extra stimulation.

“Keep in mind that a flat tongue feels very different than the tip of your tongue.”

The alphabet and the clock

Perhaps you’ve heard or read somewhere that licking the alphabet is a good way to find out which movement she likes. It entails drawing the letters A through Z with your tongue. You can do this, but it’s very difficult to remember which ‘letters’ she likes best. Another technique you can use is seeing her vagina as a clock and noticing which ‘times’ get her going.

Vibrations with your mouth

Don’t forget letting her know that you enjoy what you’re doing as well. Not only does this turn her on even more, the vibrations that come from your lips when you groan are very stimulating!

5. Listen to her body

Evaluate your movements based on her reaction. You can pay attention to her breathing and the way her hips move. If her breathing gets heavier, you know you’re doing well! Some women like it better when you focus purely on the clitoris, others enjoy the stimulation of the labia more. Keep a close eye on her reaction. Many women also like it when you stroke their breasts and thighs at the same time.

“If her breathing gets heavier, you know you’re doing well!”

6. Building up to the orgasm

After some time, you can slightly increase the pace and really work towards her orgasm. When you feel that she is close to her climax, continue with what you are doing! At this stage, it’s important that you maintain a constant rhythm and movement. Bear in mind that it’s also possible for her to not finish at all, so don’t be too focused on giving her an orgasm. The most important thing is that she enjoys it, orgasm or not.

7. Aftercare

Has she come? Stop stimulating the clitoris with your tongue. It’s very sensitive at that point, and it needs some time to calm down. Now it’s time to crawl back up and lie down next to your partner, or continue the fun.

Did you manage to get your girlfriend to come with these techniques? Do you have a good tip? Let us know in the comments below!