8 reasons to masturbate in your relationship

Do you hide the fact that you masturbate from your partner? Many couples find it difficult to be honest with each other about solo sex because they don’t want to make their partner insecure. This is a shame, not only can masturbation be great fun, it can also be great for your sex life as a couple. Bring on that little bit of me-time!

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Masturbating in a relationship

Masturbating seems like something you just do for yourself, but solo sex actually has a great impact on your sex life as a whole as well. There are still many taboo subjects in sex, and masturbation in a relationship is one of them. That’s a shame, as there’s nothing wrong with masturbating when you have a partner. In fact, it contributes to a better relationship.

“There’s nothing wrong with masturbating when you have a partner.”

1. It can boost your confidence

One of the many reasons for a stagnant sex life is that one of the partners no longer feels attractive. Are you ashamed of some part of your body? Or are you worried about something else? Stop overthinking, start masturbating. Masturbation can make you feel powerful, beautiful and simply sexy. It’s a great way to feel more comfortable in your own skin and to make your sexual dreams come true. You’ll get more self-confidence between the sheets, and you’ll be able to show your partner what you like and how you like it.

“Masturbation is a great way to feel more comfortable in your own skin and to make your sexual dreams come true.”

2. It reduces stress

Stress is the number one mood killer when it comes to sex. Masturbation releases endorphins into your body, which reduces your stress. It’s not hard to imagine that everyone, even in a long-term relationship, benefits from some solo sex. Research shows that orgasms can boost your mood and release the chemical hormone dopamine, which makes you feel very relaxed. And less stress means more sex!

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3. It gets you in the mood

A big plus of solo sex is that it can increase your desire for shared sex. Masturbating can make you feel like a sexual animal (again). It’s especially beneficial if you’ve been in a relationship for a while, as it’s often hard to keep the flame alive like it was in the beginning. When you’re masturbating, you’re keeping your sex organs active. And that, in turn, increases your sex drive. In short: the more you get from it, the more you want it!

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4. You find out what works for you and what doesn’t

Want to have great sex? You can only have great sex if you know what you like. Masturbation helps you to get to know your own body better. You’ll find out what you like and what you don’t like, and what movements can bring you to a climax. This also makes it easier to tell your partner what you like. Besides, you can be sure that your partner will appreciate it when you show or explain it to them, because after all, they just want you to enjoy yourself. Getting to know your own body through masturbation will definitely improve your sex life.

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5. Fulfilling other needs

Daydreaming about an attractive passer-by or fantasising about a sexy actor or actress can result in sex being constantly on your mind. Fantasising is very normal, and it’ll always be your own little secret. That’s why they’re just fantasies. Besides, being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you always have the same needs. Some people just have a more intense sex drive than others. That need can be fulfilled perfectly well by masturbating. Don’t be ashamed of your individual sexuality – enjoy it! It’ll only improve your sex life together.

6. It helps fight menstrual pain

This point is especially for women: masturbation helps fight menstrual pain. The endorphins released when you masturbate reduce irritation and cramps. An orgasm increases blood flow to the genitals, which in turn helps to relieve pain. Next time when you’re on your period, grab a towel, dim the lights and take advantage of this natural painkiller.

“The endorphins released when you masturbate reduce irritation and cramps.”

It’ll also help you to stop thinking that it’s ‘dirty’ to have sex during your period because you will have experienced for yourself that it’s not a big deal at all. Just hop in the shower together afterwards.

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7. It’s great self-care

The longer you’ve been with your partner, the more likely you are to have a sexual routine. Masturbating in a relationship is a way of showing that you are responsible for your own pleasure. It’s a great eye-opener to realise that you’re the one in charge of your own happiness. Do you feel like masturbating more often than your partner? Don’t complain that you don’t have enough sex – create your own moment of pleasure by masturbating.

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8. Solo sex together

Most people have a need for solo sex from time to time. It doesn’t say anything about the quality of duo sex, but sometimes you just want an intimate moment where you can get lost in your fantasies and do it just the way you like it. Do you want to make your solo sex just a little bit more exciting? It can be very exciting for both of you to play with yourselves in front of your partner. Men love to see women playing with themselves – and the other way around is definitely a turn-on as well. Besides, you might learn some tricks from each other!

“It can be very exciting for both of you to play with yourselves in front of your partner. Men love to see women playing with themselves.”